Category: Couples Coaching with Sydney
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When Your One Safe Place Evaporates
Home is that one safe place where masks come off and tensions melt away, right? It’s the Campbell soup, fresh-baked-cookie zone where you can be your complete self with reckless abandon, knowing you are loved for nothing more than being you. Or so you wish. In reality, home is where the battles take place; the…
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Ingredients For A Thunderstorm?
Two Good People, Two Different Stories — Part One You want to blame him. You have a whole list of reasons, and they are valid. Your friends and family even weigh in sometimes and they agree with you. You are both convinced of your position. Storm clouds are brewing…you can feel it. In fact, you…
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Posting Into The Void
On the Meaning Famine and What’s Really Happening to Us Are you the person who listens to podcasts on the commute, during the run, while fixing dinner, or adjacent to your kid’s Babe Ruth game? Are you on YouTube at midnight and again first thing in the morning? Doom scrolling before you’ve even left your…
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A Thousand Tiny Goodbyes
It was nothing. It’s expected even, right? Part of the ebb and flow. That’s where your mind goes as you read the polite message declining the renewal. The rationalization arrives before the disappointment does. It arrives so fast you almost miss the fact that something just landed. Something that stings a little. Something that, if…
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Why Have Our Fights Gotten SO Bad?
“The fight you keep having isn’t new, it just has more fuel.” The cycles of conflict you have as a couple haven’t changed exactly, but they have become more intense. The old patterns were always there. But they weren’t always like this. There’s a difference between a familiar argument and a familiar argument amplified by…
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Your AI Coach Doesn’t Know You’re Lying to Yourself
On The Seduction Of Being Understood By Something That Can’t Feel The Weight Of What You Are Avoiding The Observation The AI coaching market just crossed $5 billion. Venture capital is thrilled. Your nervous system remains completely unimpressed. I’m still trying to catch my breath. Every week I watch another breathless announcement: an app that…
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Two People. One House. Two Completely Different Worlds.
On the invisible battle happening behind closed doors in high-achieving homes. She scanned the driveway again for the twelfth time or maybe it was the fifteenth. She’d lost track. It wasn’t that big of a deal, at least that’s what she kept telling herself. It was just an argument. Couples argue. She knew this better…
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THE STARTING POINT
What Change Actually Looks Like Before It Looks Like Anything People want to know what change looks like. They imagine a moment. A shift. Something dramatic and visible, a decision made, a boundary held, a new version of themselves stepping cleanly into view. That’s not what I see in this work. What I see is…
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Boundaries vs Ultimatums: One Protects, the Other Controls
There’s a subtle yet powerful difference between setting a boundary and giving an ultimatum—understanding this difference can improve the way we relate to others and deepen those relationships. Boundaries are rooted in self-awareness. They are what we need to feel safe, respected, and whole. Boundaries are not about changing someone else; they’re about protecting and honoring…
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Top Three Relationship Saboteurs
1) Feelings of Powerlessness2) Lack of Trust3) Unmet Expectations When we feel powerless we often find ourselves trying to convince, manage or control the circumstance. This leads to over-efforting, in other words trying to hard. This intensity can repel rather than attract what we most want. The quick solution is to look for all the…