Category: Physician Coaching
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The Life That Survival Built
I was raised to be an overfunctioner. Rural settings, constant moves, and instability created a parentified child who grew into a hyper-empathetic, overfunctioning adult. In every relationship and every career setting, I showed up as the door prize…the unexpected dynamo who quietly won everyone over. “I just want to be a receptionist,” a partner teased me…
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When The Costume Changes, But The Operating System Doesn’t
Congruent Reinvention The personal development world has turned reinvention into another performance. Become your highest self, your future self, your 2.0 self, your most successful self. We are obsessed with optimizing, scaling, upgrading, reinventing. But most people reinvent from the very survival patterns they are unhappy with and trying to escape. They simply reinvent their…
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Best Self or True Self
We spend a great deal of our lives trying to become stronger, smarter, more disciplined, more successful, more resilient. Becoming our best self becomes the obsession. But after a couple of decades working in the trenches, I’ve begun to wonder if that’s the wrong pursuit. Perhaps the deeper invitation is not to become our best…
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The Agreements You Never Made But Keep Showing Up For
The Unspoken Agreements That Are Running Your Life You are living, right now, inside an agreement you may not even acknowledge exists. It’s not a real contract. It’s not a conversation you remember having. It’s an agreement that was never spoken out loud, never negotiated, never signed and yet it is shaping how you show…
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The Doctor Who Disappeared
He’d been working for hours and it was only 6 a.m. Reviewing messages, going to do rounds, checking the schedule, returning a couple of calls. He felt the exhaustion creeping in already and there were hours to go…There is a version of tired, all too familiar, that has nothing to do with hours worked. It’s…
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The Intimacy We Forgot to Scale
You wanted to be seen. You wanted eyes on your craft, your creation, your expertise, the uniqueness of your concept. Everyone does. It’s the first hunger, the one that gets you to sketch out your idea on a napkin, share your original idea with peers, expand into public introductions/demonstrations, then proceed to launch. Many of…
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The Third Job Nobody Pays You For
You clocked out but nobody told your nervous system. The last team member has left the chat. The last patient has been seen. The final decision made. The team has gone home. By every external measure the workday is over. And then you walk through your front door into the night job that is harder…
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The Meaning Famine in Leadership
The demands were endless. They were unreasonable. They sounded like: “Do more with less support.”“Be faster with less resources.”“Figure it out with less communication.” While juggling competing priorities that were never actually reconciled, only relayed, you feel micromanaged and abandoned at the same time. Firehose in hand, prepared to put out the latest blaze, except…
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When Your One Safe Place Evaporates
Home is that one safe place where masks come off and tensions melt away, right? It’s the Campbell soup, fresh-baked-cookie zone where you can be your complete self with reckless abandon, knowing you are loved for nothing more than being you. Or so you wish. In reality, home is where the battles take place; the…
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Behind The Curtain
It’s not the absence of people. You are surrounded by them. In fact, you often feel there are too many in the room, not too few. The waiting room is full. The inbox is full. The calendar is full. People need you at work, at home, in the group chat, on the board, in the…