Tag: #LeadershipDevelopment
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The Life That Survival Built
I was raised to be an overfunctioner. Rural settings, constant moves, and instability created a parentified child who grew into a hyper-empathetic, overfunctioning adult. In every relationship and every career setting, I showed up as the door prize…the unexpected dynamo who quietly won everyone over. “I just want to be a receptionist,” a partner teased me…
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When The Costume Changes, But The Operating System Doesn’t
Congruent Reinvention The personal development world has turned reinvention into another performance. Become your highest self, your future self, your 2.0 self, your most successful self. We are obsessed with optimizing, scaling, upgrading, reinventing. But most people reinvent from the very survival patterns they are unhappy with and trying to escape. They simply reinvent their…
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The Agreements You Never Made But Keep Showing Up For
The Unspoken Agreements That Are Running Your Life You are living, right now, inside an agreement you may not even acknowledge exists. It’s not a real contract. It’s not a conversation you remember having. It’s an agreement that was never spoken out loud, never negotiated, never signed and yet it is shaping how you show…
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The Intimacy We Forgot to Scale
You wanted to be seen. You wanted eyes on your craft, your creation, your expertise, the uniqueness of your concept. Everyone does. It’s the first hunger, the one that gets you to sketch out your idea on a napkin, share your original idea with peers, expand into public introductions/demonstrations, then proceed to launch. Many of…
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The Meaning Famine in Leadership
The demands were endless. They were unreasonable. They sounded like: “Do more with less support.”“Be faster with less resources.”“Figure it out with less communication.” While juggling competing priorities that were never actually reconciled, only relayed, you feel micromanaged and abandoned at the same time. Firehose in hand, prepared to put out the latest blaze, except…
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Behind The Curtain
It’s not the absence of people. You are surrounded by them. In fact, you often feel there are too many in the room, not too few. The waiting room is full. The inbox is full. The calendar is full. People need you at work, at home, in the group chat, on the board, in the…
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A Thousand Tiny Goodbyes
It was nothing. It’s expected even, right? Part of the ebb and flow. That’s where your mind goes as you read the polite message declining the renewal. The rationalization arrives before the disappointment does. It arrives so fast you almost miss the fact that something just landed. Something that stings a little. Something that, if…
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The Loneliest Job In The World
“You are performing with a confidence you don’t entirely feel, for people who need you to feel it.” I’ve worked with entrepreneurs for over twenty-five years. The fearless leaders who can’t talk about what they really feel are the ones I think about most. Entrepreneurship requires that you show up confidently, allaying everyone else’s fears…
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You Look Like You Have It Together-But Do You Feel Like It?
She sat in boardrooms in corporate America. She knew how to read a room, how to speak with authority, how to hold her ground in a meeting full of people who assumed they were the smartest one there. She dressed well. She delivered. She performed so exceptionally that she almost convinced herself it was the…
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Why Highly Intelligent People Struggle With Anxiety
For years I blamed modern conveniences and comfortable living for the epidemic of anxiety we see around us today. When we were running for our lives from predators or wild beasts…we knew fear. Today, our threats look very different. We’re not running from predators, we’re trying to reconcile bank accounts, meet deadlines and navigate complex…