Tag: #GrowthMindset
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The Invitation and the Ask
Why giving feels safe, receiving feels like debt, and how to offer your work without shame “I hate asking people for money,” she said through clenched teeth. “In fact, I hate money altogether. Why can’t we just have a society that operates without money?” This was a real conversation I had recently. She’s brilliant at…
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You Don’t Have One Problem, You Have FIVE
What looks like one problem is often hiding something deeper. Six weeks into his promotion, his boss scheduled a one-on-one. He walked in expecting to talk strategy. He walked out with a very different message. His team had been talking. They said he’d changed since the promotion. They didn’t trust his leadership. Some were questioning…
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Maybe You’re Not Afraid Of Change
You may be afraid of becoming the person who chose it She wanted out of the relationship. It was toxic. And I don’t mean toxic in a psychobabble, join-the-“toxic marriage” club kind of way. This relationship fit the definition. Constant fighting, competing, manipulation, accusations…all of it. But she didn’t leave. For the longest time, I…
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You Don’t Have to Choose Change
The strange freedom in knowing that change is coming anyway I had two conversations this week that were remarkably similar. One was with a physician. The other was with a founder whose company was in crisis. Different lives, different circumstances, but the same problem. Both felt trapped. They knew something needed to change, but every…
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Nobody’s Marriage Begins With Divorce
Every Life Cycle Has a Beginning Leah contacted me because she was concerned about her marriage. She couldn’t easily pinpoint what had happened, but she was filled with resentment, and she didn’t like the feeling. There was no explosive argument, no affair, no single moment she could point to and say, “This is where it went…
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The Dog Days of Disappointment
What my dogs taught me about resentment I’m a dog person and have been all my life. One of the things my dogs have taught me is that they carry expectations just like we do. Grab a leash or mention a walk and my dogs will jump, wag, yip in the happy expectation that we…
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The Loneliest Job In The World
“You are performing with a confidence you don’t entirely feel, for people who need you to feel it.” I’ve worked with entrepreneurs for over twenty-five years. The fearless leaders who can’t talk about what they really feel are the ones I think about most. Entrepreneurship requires that you show up confidently, allaying everyone else’s fears…
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You Look Like You Have It Together-But Do You Feel Like It?
She sat in boardrooms in corporate America. She knew how to read a room, how to speak with authority, how to hold her ground in a meeting full of people who assumed they were the smartest one there. She dressed well. She delivered. She performed so exceptionally that she almost convinced herself it was the…
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Why Highly Intelligent People Struggle With Anxiety
For years I blamed modern conveniences and comfortable living for the epidemic of anxiety we see around us today. When we were running for our lives from predators or wild beasts…we knew fear. Today, our threats look very different. We’re not running from predators, we’re trying to reconcile bank accounts, meet deadlines and navigate complex…
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Using Declarative and Imperative Thinking to Improve Your Life
True Confession I’ll start by acknowledging something about myself: I naturally lean toward a declarative approach to life rather than an imperative one. There are times when the imperative approach is absolutely necessary — but for me, it’s a place I visit, not a place I live. Understanding the difference between these two mindsets can transform how you set goals, make…