Tag: #fractalsofpersonality
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Maybe You’re Not Afraid Of Change
You may be afraid of becoming the person who chose it She wanted out of the relationship. It was toxic. And I don’t mean toxic in a psychobabble, join-the-“toxic marriage” club kind of way. This relationship fit the definition. Constant fighting, competing, manipulation, accusations…all of it. But she didn’t leave. For the longest time, I…
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Work Self vs. Caregiver Self
The disorienting shift from professional mastery to caring for an aging parent You can run a casualty drill at the hospital, restructure a division, create a performance improvement plan, or sit across from a board and defend a number down to the decimal. You can walk into a crisis meeting and be the calmest person…
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So I Changed the Situation. Why Is the Pattern Still Here?
Why awareness alone isn’t enough. So I Changed the Situation. Why Is the Pattern Still Here? People often contact me with issues around their relationship with money. Maybe they were raised in an environment of scarcity and don’t quite know how to develop a different relationship to earning, spending, saving, or simply having enough. They’ve…
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The Life That Survival Built
I was raised to be an overfunctioner. Rural settings, constant moves, and instability created a parentified child who grew into a hyper-empathetic, overfunctioning adult. In every relationship and every career setting, I showed up as the door prize…the unexpected dynamo who quietly won everyone over. “I just want to be a receptionist,” a partner teased me…
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The Difference Was Never the Problem
I just had a conversation with a client that highlighted something I see often. A relationship that was once energized by differences had become contentious over those very same contrasts. The qualities that once created attraction, balance, and possibility had slowly become the source of frustration, resentment, and conflict. It left me thinking about how…
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The Agreements You Never Made But Keep Showing Up For
The Unspoken Agreements That Are Running Your Life You are living, right now, inside an agreement you may not even acknowledge exists. It’s not a real contract. It’s not a conversation you remember having. It’s an agreement that was never spoken out loud, never negotiated, never signed and yet it is shaping how you show…
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When Your One Safe Place Evaporates
Home is that one safe place where masks come off and tensions melt away, right? It’s the Campbell soup, fresh-baked-cookie zone where you can be your complete self with reckless abandon, knowing you are loved for nothing more than being you. Or so you wish. In reality, home is where the battles take place; the…
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Ingredients For A Thunderstorm?
Two Good People, Two Different Stories — Part One You want to blame him. You have a whole list of reasons, and they are valid. Your friends and family even weigh in sometimes and they agree with you. You are both convinced of your position. Storm clouds are brewing…you can feel it. In fact, you…
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The 6 AM Email
By Sydney Ashland She sent the email at 6:00 am, from bed, without a second thought. She had been rolling over an issue from work that had been mentioned the previous day. It was only said in passing. It wasn’t something she had even agreed to research, but before she fell into bed, she felt…
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Your AI Coach Doesn’t Know You’re Lying to Yourself
On The Seduction Of Being Understood By Something That Can’t Feel The Weight Of What You Are Avoiding The Observation The AI coaching market just crossed $5 billion. Venture capital is thrilled. Your nervous system remains completely unimpressed. I’m still trying to catch my breath. Every week I watch another breathless announcement: an app that…