Category: Physician Coaching
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Why Success Sometimes Makes Life Feel Harder
“Everything looks successful from the outside… so why does it feel this hard?” Over the years I’ve sat with many highly successful professionals, physicians, founders and leaders who experience this stage of success. I spoke with someone this week who gave me permission to share. Their business is thriving. Growth is strong. Receivables are up.…
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Why Overfunctioners Attract Underfunctioners
“The tragedy of the overfunctioner is that the stronger they become, the less support they receive.” Why the Strong One Always Ends Up Carrying Everything One of the most common patterns I see in couples, families, and leadership teams is this: The more one person overfunctions, the more the other underfunctions. And in this scenario…
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If My Life Is Changing, Why Are My Struggles Always The Same?
Many of us are startled to arrive at a point in life very different than where we imagined we would be. That realization can feel disappointing, confusing, frustrating, discouraging– especially for the highly motivated person, reaching for the stars. You’ve done the work:New relationships.Career growth.Expanding awareness.Therapy.Coaching.Personal development. And yet, somehow, here you are again. Experiencing…
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The Real Work of Balance
Four Practices That Restore Your Energy Professionally and Personally We talk about balance as if it’s a destination — somewhere we’ll arrive at once our lives slow down, the calendar opens up, the inbox empties, or our lives becomes less demanding. But balance isn’t a finish line to cross. Balance isn’t frantically filling your schedule…
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Using Declarative and Imperative Thinking to Improve Your Life
True Confession I’ll start by acknowledging something about myself: I naturally lean toward a declarative approach to life rather than an imperative one. There are times when the imperative approach is absolutely necessary — but for me, it’s a place I visit, not a place I live. Understanding the difference between these two mindsets can transform how you set goals, make…
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Living With “Should’s” vs. Living With What You Truly Want
We all carry a backpack full of “shoulds.”I should be further along by now.I should say yes to that opportunity.I should be more like her. Sometimes those “shoulds” are so ingrained, so habituated, that we stop recognizing where they came from. They often begin as someone else’s expectations—family, culture, mentors, partners, even social media. Over time, they can feel like our…
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When It’s Never Enough: Breaking the Cycle of Endless Striving
I regularly hear from high-performing professionals, entrepreneurs, creatives and healers who struggle with endless striving or the “moving goalpost” syndrome. The pattern is universal. You set a goal.You work hard. You meet the goal, often even exceed it, but instead of feeling the gratification of a job well done, you feel let down. You can’t…
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Labels–Are they helping you or holding you back?
Helpful or Harmful? Labels are everywhere — they influence how we describe ourselves, how others define us, and may influence how readily we seek help or build community. From “introvert” to “entrepreneur,” “ADHD” to “empath,” a label can feel like a lifeline… or a prison. It is important to remember that labels are tools —…
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Executive Functioning, ADHD, or Anxiety? How to Know What You’re Really Dealing With
In my work with high-performing professionals, I often hear clients say: “I can’t stay focused. Is it ADHD?” “I’m overwhelmed and disorganized. Is this anxiety or something else?” Too often, people mislabel what they’re experiencing because executive functioning challenges, ADHD, and anxiety can overlap in confusing ways. Misunderstanding the root cause can lead to the…
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Intuition in Medicine
Some of the most intuitive physicians in medicine are emergency and urgent care docs. I remember one physician (Erik) recounting a “20 something” woman who came into the ER complaining of belly pain. All the tests were coming back negative, yet he had an uneasy feeling he refused to ignore. Something was seriously wrong. He…